Susan Kates’ tips on dating with children
10 Make time for dating. Single parents are chauffeurs, coaches and ATM machines, especially since they're juggling so many things at one time. Stop. You have to make time for dating, too.
9 Start doing things for you. You won't meet someone by sitting at home and waiting for the phone to ring. Get out there and have some fun. Be where other singles are. That will be your best way of meeting someone new.
8 Have a positive attitude. Think of dating as an adventure. It can be fun. Meeting new people is really what dating is all about. Attitude is everything.
7 It's totally OK to talk about your kids on a date. But don't go overboard about how Johnny and Sally are A students and win at everything they do; this can be intimidating. Everyone goes through issues with their kids, so just keep it real. Certainly don't spend the whole date talking about the kids, but talking about your kids can connect you.
6 Don't talk about your ex. Of course your ex will come into the conversation but don't talk about him or her excessively. This is about who you are, who you really are. You want your date to get to know you, the wonderful you, the new enlightened you.
5 If the glove doesn't fit ... So many times people like each other, but because this person doesn't fit the "checklist" they immediately say this is not going to work. Relationships are work. You have to give it a chance.
4 Age is just a number. Finding love again can come in so many different packages that by restricting yourself to a very narrow age range you might be missing out on someone that is totally right for you.
3 Chemistry is important, but chemistry can come later. If you are compatible and you get along, see where things can go. Sparks have a way of burning out while friendships can grow.
2 Don't introduce your date to your kids too soon. Get to know each other first, see if things work out between you, then get everyone together. And when you do get everyone together, don't think it will be perfect the first time. It won't. If the two of you are interested in each other, don't give up.
1 Dating is just dating. You are not looking for a spouse (just yet), you are looking for companionship, making new friends and having some fun. If you connect, you never know where it will lead, but don't go into this looking for "the one."
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